Choice, No- choice, or Something else

I recently was talking to a girl and she asked 'is it a choice you are all alone'.

Y - means
X - ends
Z - factor that can interfere with Y
W - factor that can counteract Z

I don't know if she was really thinking about what she was saying but it brought a larger point in my head. anyway I responded to her that ultimately it was a choice I'm alone. or is it?

i want to have a girlfriend and all and the sex, but it's always a fleeting moment. i do ultimately want to be with someone but other times i don't want anybody. is it a choice I'm not with anybody? take say someone with cancer. lets say this person with cancer wants to go hiking. this person wants to go hiking but can't go hiking because that person doesn't have the energy to do it. so is it the person's choice to not go hiking? or is it that the person wants to go hiking but CAN'T go hiking? but how is it a choice when the person wants to hiking but can't go hiking?

I'll put it like this if a person wants to do X then that person must do Y to get to X. but Z can interfere with Y. therefore, it's not a choice that the person doesn't want to go hiking. the person simply can't do it. so more or less that person is in a dilemma. one could say for Z you could do W. in other words, you could make other choices to counteract Z. the thing is in the cancer person there is no way out of Z, so the person is left with no choice in the case.

another point is will. the person with cancer has the will to do the choice but can't do it. so the person has the will to do it, but not the means to do it. therefore, without the means to do the choice, the person has no choice. the person is simply in the position of no choice in the matter.

back to my problem with dating other people. i have the will to date the other person but i don't have the means to do it. in other words, i must do X to get to Y. however Z interferes with X making Y impossible to get to. although, W can counteract Z but the counteracting is not enough to overturn Z. therefore, it is not a choice that I'm alone. this is so because the inability to counteract Z.